I don't always feel like keeping quiet, especially when my heart feels justified to blurt out my thoughts and feeling, but I thank God every time I do, because I give the Holy Spirit the chance to work in me as He promised!
This respect thing is about dying to yourself and allowing Him to be glorified. This statement ain't a walk in the park, but the precious Holy Spirit will enable us. In an earlier incident with my husband, I found myself simmering, boiling a bit. If you have been married long enough, I don't have to explain this! As I simmered, the Holy Spirit kept saying to me- "you can share this experience as an after the fact, rather than telling him off right now, because you will do much damage". The devil knows that if he can press me long enough, I will burst, and thereby crush my husband's spirit. Right there, the precious Holy Spirit reminded me that with my words, I either bring life or death. This is imperative when it comes to my husband, because to this man, I vow daily to only speak life into him.
I don't doubt that I should share my opinion, but it is how I share it that matters.
I am learning to say and share it respectfully at all times.
I know that by nature I am not diplomatic-I go for overkill. I am allowing the Holy Spirit to kill that nasty nature and replace it with His character- being slow to speak, slow to anger. I choose His Word over my emotions. I choose to walk in the Spirit every time when offered an opportunity to dwell in emotion. Is this popular? Oh no. In fact they will say to me- "tell him how you feel, it's your right. Give him a piece of your mind." I get all this. I get how you looking out for yourself is the cultural norm and priority, but it is unscriptural when we do it in a way that breaks others down. He said to me He will fight for me; He will avenge on my behalf. I'd rather follow His ways than those of human creation.
Respect is a supernatural way of living.
This will not always feel consistent with our default nature. We need to train ourselves within this truth, so that it becomes our default manner of operation. Hope you will join me, daughters of God, in walking in the spirit as His daughters which are married.
May we always walk on the higher road for this union we are in! His peace will rule and reign over every aspect of our lives- a peace as only He can give, not as the world offers. We are respectful wives, because we want to glorify Christ in our union! May we always be learning to bite our tongue for the benefit of our husband, until we meet again on the other side.
This respect thing is about dying to yourself and allowing Him to be glorified. This statement ain't a walk in the park, but the precious Holy Spirit will enable us. In an earlier incident with my husband, I found myself simmering, boiling a bit. If you have been married long enough, I don't have to explain this! As I simmered, the Holy Spirit kept saying to me- "you can share this experience as an after the fact, rather than telling him off right now, because you will do much damage". The devil knows that if he can press me long enough, I will burst, and thereby crush my husband's spirit. Right there, the precious Holy Spirit reminded me that with my words, I either bring life or death. This is imperative when it comes to my husband, because to this man, I vow daily to only speak life into him.
I don't doubt that I should share my opinion, but it is how I share it that matters.
I am learning to say and share it respectfully at all times.
I know that by nature I am not diplomatic-I go for overkill. I am allowing the Holy Spirit to kill that nasty nature and replace it with His character- being slow to speak, slow to anger. I choose His Word over my emotions. I choose to walk in the Spirit every time when offered an opportunity to dwell in emotion. Is this popular? Oh no. In fact they will say to me- "tell him how you feel, it's your right. Give him a piece of your mind." I get all this. I get how you looking out for yourself is the cultural norm and priority, but it is unscriptural when we do it in a way that breaks others down. He said to me He will fight for me; He will avenge on my behalf. I'd rather follow His ways than those of human creation.
Respect is a supernatural way of living.
This will not always feel consistent with our default nature. We need to train ourselves within this truth, so that it becomes our default manner of operation. Hope you will join me, daughters of God, in walking in the spirit as His daughters which are married.
May we always walk on the higher road for this union we are in! His peace will rule and reign over every aspect of our lives- a peace as only He can give, not as the world offers. We are respectful wives, because we want to glorify Christ in our union! May we always be learning to bite our tongue for the benefit of our husband, until we meet again on the other side.